Addicted...

There is nothing worse than being addicted to something. Smokers, alcoholics, workaholics, junkies, all are Ph.D in slavery. 

But the most harmful addiction is the addiction to another person, that many people confuse with love. True love liberates... 

Addiction is cage... 

You may have said to a friend, or heard from him: --- -that thing you feel is a disease! 
And it is nothing more than a disease. 
The symptoms are easily recognizable. You have a chaotic relationship. Discuss for many hours a day. One is from Mars, the other from Venus. One day the planets collide and your world collapses. 

If it were love, what would come after the breakup? Revolt, tears, longing, a brief would relapse, more tears, more longing, until gradually a certain peace would arise, the self-esteem would be  back and love would turn into memory. 
With your heartbroken, you would search for a new romance and start all over again. It is not a quick process, but it is more or less like that. 

Addiction? no please. If you're addicted to someone, go only halfway: anguish, tears, longing and relapse. And stop there. Insist on relapse. Anxiety makes you do crazy things to get your love back, and when you can have five minutes with him, you throw yourself voluptuously: you smoke, you smell, you drink the guy up to the last drop. After that? A heady feeling of healing. No, you do not need him anymore. You can very well live without him. You do not even think he is attractive, and you come back home feeling as a female medieval warrior. You won the fight with yourself!

Two weeks pass and then you call the phone company to see if your line is faulty. The phone just does not ring! Also your car no longer obey your orders: it drives alone into the street where your dear love lives, just to see if his motorbike is in front of the garage. And it is. So he did not return to Venus, he is still in the city. You start to cold sweat. Feel lightheaded. Go to the office and begin to chewing the office pencils, spills coffee on colleagues, trembles to hold the glass... 
Diagnosis: abstinence symptoms. You go after him. You need crazily an injection of affection in you vein. 

The end of this story? Does not exist. He needs it too, otherwise he would not open the door. 
We need to claim the urgent creation of an AP: Anonymous Passionate. 
Just as there are people who, to overcome alcoholism, avoid taking the first sip, some people need to learn to avoid the first meeting not reoccur for a love that is bad for their health.

I vanished because...

I vanished because I just make foolishness  in 

your presence. 

I get dumb when I should verbalize, say a nonsense 

after another when stay in silence would be the best, 

make jokes in bad taste and suffer before, during 

and after meeting you. 

I vanished because there is no future for us and this 

is not the hardest deal. The hardest is not to have a 

present and the past  being more fluid than the air.

I vanished because there is not what we can 

redeem.

My disappearance is coward but observant, half 

worthless, half authentic.

I vanished because vanishing is a game of patience. 

Vanishing is a risk and also wisdom. 

I seem uninterested, but I vanished to be always by 

your side...

Missing you will make more for us than my  love for 

you and its clumsy and thoughtless permanence.

http://youtu.be/2ntKgLxgY9s

Nobody to share...

People come into your life for a Reason, for One Season or  for Lifetime. 

When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for each person. 

When someone comes into your life for a "Reason" ... it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be there. Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a position. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. Their prayers were answered. And now it is time to go. 

When people come into your life for a "Season", it is because your turn has come to share, grow and learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy ... Believe! It's real! But only for a "Season". 

When someone comes into your life for a "Lifetime" he teaches you lessons for life: things you must build to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant, and we just say: Thank you for being part of my life.
If you have had the bless of having even one person in your life for a Reason, or for a Season or for a Lifetime... 

Stop here and just SMILE. 

WORK as if you do not need the money... 

LOVE as if you had never been hurt... 
And DANCE as if no one is watching you...

Because the greatest risk in life is... 

"having NOBODY to share your life".

Dreaming...

I was wondering how funny some things are... 

Tomato prevents from one thing, onion prevents from another, chocolate is good but chocolate is also bad, a daily glass of wine is okay, but every sip of alcohol is harmful. 

We must drink plenty of water, but do not overdo it because it's not good... 

After all those healthy discoveries, I think it's safer not change my habits. 

I am quite sure of what is good and of what is bad for my health. 

To have pleasure makes me feel very good... 

Sleeping good makes me feel brand new... 

Reading a good book makes me dream and fly... 

Travelling makes me tense before boarding, but after enjoying the trip I feel five years younger... 

Long air travel does not swell my legs; it swells my brain, 'cause I come back full of ideas... 

Fighting is bad because causes me heart arrhythmia... 

Seeing people having stupid atitude hits my heart and makes me sick.

Witnessing people throwing trash through out the car window makes me lose all faith in the human being. 

And TV news? ... doctors should forbid them - it hurts!!! 

Walking is good, dancing is good, staying silent when a discussion is on fire, does very well to my soul! 

I exercise self-control and still wake up the next day without feeling sorry for nothing. 

Waking up in the morning regretting what I said or what I did last night is injurious to my health! 

And spending the rest of the day without the courage to apologize, is even worse! 

Not apologizing for our blunders causes cancer. No tomatoes,  or mozzarella to prevent it. 

Going to the movies, get a central place in the ranks of the background, not having anyone impeding our vision, no cell phone ringing and the film is spectacular... Wow! This is so good!

Cinema is better for health than popcorn... 

Good conversation is better than bad "funny" jokes... 

Exercise is better than surgery... 

Good humor is better than anger... 

Close friends are better than influential people... 

Saving money is better than spending unconciously and stay in debt.

Questions are better than doubts. 

And dreaming...well...

Dreaming is the best of all!!!

http://youtu.be/asDvLON9PUU

by: Martha Medeiros

The silence of the wolves...

Think of someone who is powerful ... 

This person fights and screams like a chicken, or looks and silences, like a wolf? 

Wolves do not scream... 

They have an aura of strength and power. 

Observe in silence... 

Only the powerful,  wolves, men or women, respond to a verbal attack with silence. 

Besides, who avoids saying anything he wishes will rarely regret for hurting someone with harsh and thoughtless words. 

Exactly that's why, the first and most obvious sign of power over himself is the silence at critical moments. 

If you are silent, just observing the problem, it shows you're thinking, and have no time for futile debates. 

If it is a discussion that has already left the ground of reason, who silences shows that has already won, even when the other side insists on shouting he is defeated. 

Watch... 

Smile... 

Silence... 

Go ahead... 

Remember that there are moments to speak and there are moments to silence. 

Choose which of these moments is the right one, even if you have to struggle for it. 

For some reason, probably cultural, we are trained to the false idea that we are obliged to answer all questions and respond to all attacks. 

Not true! 

You should answer only to whatever you want to answer and only reacts to whatever you want to. 

You are not even required to answer your personal phone. 

Speaking is a choice, not a requirement, even though it seems so. 

You can choose the silence... 

Also, you will not have to regret things you say on thoughtless moments.

"Xenocrates", more than three hundred years before Christ, defended his saying: 

"I regret things I say, but never my silence." 

Respond with silence when needed. 

Use smiles, not sarcastic smiles, but real ones. 

Use the look, use a hug or use anything else not to respond at times.

You will find that silence can be the most powerful among many responses, and at the right time, the most comprehensive and real of all of them...

Do you agree???

Ellipsis...

...I love ellipsis ...! 
They are the most perfect gift for the beginning, middle or end you can give to a sentence... 
They bring expectation, mystery ... 
They are always there, filling the space of what we do not know, do not want or simply prefer not to say...
Or to show that we know exactly which word or words fit on those three dots... 
Ellipsis are not final... 
Not one, but three! Three points side by side, the three Mary stars...
An outcome that suggests continuity ... or not... 
The comma divides the phrase in many parts, the pencil or the pen want to separate. 
Points end the phrase, give it a termination in accordance to the idea that you want to send. 
But they, the ellipsis, serve to all of that... 
And how lovely is to see those three drops between words that reflect our eyes ... 
Represent the yes, the no ... but mainly the maybe... We can use them to say we love a person, or that we hate, or simply to say: " I miss you "... 
If I come to you and say: I ... I ... 
It's sufficient! There they are... 
And no matter what I would say... 
Could be any bullshit, but you will want to know ... and because of them!...the ellipsis... 
The popular "three dots" are a fabulous feature of our writing... 
Stop to think: Many people say that we need to read between the lines ... 
That's why I say that what we need is to read the ellipsis!...
They are worth more than a thousand words ... or just one!... 

And you know what? ... 
If you do not want to say with all the words ... 
I will not say either...
But I... I...
That's it... :)))

A Vision of Death

Death, in itself, is a ready joke. 

Dying is ridiculous...

You agree dining with your love, 

is in full dental treatment, have plans for next week, 

need to authenticate a document notarized, need to put gas in your car and...

Dies in the afternoon? 

HOW IS THIS??? 

And the e-mails that you have not opened, the book that was half read,  the phone call you promised to give in the evening for a client? 

I do not know where they got this idea: 

TO DIE !!! 

In exchange for what? You spent more than 10 years of your life in a high school, studying chemical formulas that will not serve for anything in your future, but remained there, took the tests, 

and went ahead. 

Practiced much gyms, almost gasped, but did not give up. 

You spent sleepless dawns studying to get well for college even without being sure of what you would do of your life, full of doubts about your chosen profession, but it was time to decide, then you decided, and once again you went ahead ... 

From one moment to another, 

it all ends in a collision on the freeway, 

a clogged artery, a shot fired by a delinquent who enjoyed your tennis.

WHAT IS IT???

Dying is a joke... 

Forces you to leave on the best of the party, without saying goodbye to anyone, 

without having danced with the most beautiful girl, 

without having had time to listen to your favorite music again. 

You left home with your  shirts hanging on hangers, your  damp towel on the clothesline, and also some bills to be paid. 

Others will be forced to pack up your stuff, tinkering in your drawers, 

to erase the tracks that you left during a lifetime. 

Just you who always said: I'll take care myself of my stuff!!! 

What a macabre joke...

You leave without taking coffee 

and maybe you will not have lunch, 

walks down a street and may not reach the next corner, begin to speak and may not conclude what you mean. 

You always make your medical exams, do not smoke, drink only socially, enjoy healthy food and love thin and healthy women and dies on a saturday morning. 

Is this to be taken seriously? 

Having more than one hundred years old, come on, the eternal sleep may be welcome. 

In that age there is not much to do, the body does not follow the mind, and the mind has also prorates, not to mention that there are almost nothing stored in the drawers. 

Ok, time to rest in peace... 

But before living all life offers us to live ? 

Dying early is a transgression, undoes the natural order of things. 

Dying is an exaggeration! 

And, as we know, the exaggeration is the raw material of the jokes. 

But this joke is not funny! 

So live your life intensily and enjoy all your good moments. 

Postpone ... Postpone and Postpone ... 

Will be always the best of ways?

I don't think so...

Do not cling to small and useless things in life ...

Tell those you love about your feelings, hug them tight, kiss them everyday... 

And forgive ... 

ALWAYS !!! 

by: Pedro Bial