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Saturday, January 24, 2015

Virtual Love and Friendship




I was absolutely rendered by the power of virtual relationships. I believed it is possible to know someone by email or chatting, fall in love with e-mail, hate e-mail, all without ever seeing the person. The words written on the computer are really able to touch our heart. But we never see  the truth.
Seven o'clock on a rainy morning. I did not sleep well at night. Begin to listen to an instrumental sound that makes my emotions to the surface. Go to the computer and start writing for someone special the most intimate things that are in my heart. I even cry... Write again... Look at the rain... Write some more... Send it...
It's eleven o'clock pm in  the same day. My virtual friend is throwing a party. Everyone speaks loudly, laughs a lot, and enjoys the party crazily. He grabs a beer and gives a getaway to the computer. Opens the mail. There he sees my message. A long text he reads in a hurry. Highlights some words: "longing is so ... alone too ... share what I feel ..." how boring... He thinks: I will answer tomorrow... Then he deletes it.
Everybody can write angry, write with pain, write ironically, write hard, write mocking, write rushed, write the obligation, write with ulterior motives. None of this will come across the screen... a hurry, hesitation, sadness... 
The words come unaccompanied. We need to believe that the sender has the talent in passing emotion in each sentence. As very few people have this gift, a sensitive message may be confused with dryness, all because it lacked a pair of eyes looking at you deeply, lacked a voice.
If you come to despise someone, you can write "not want to see you." If you love someone very much, but the lack of harmony comes hurting you, you can write "not want to see you."The same sentence and two different messages. Written words are only summaries of our deep feelings, feelings that need to be explained more than a subject, a verb and a predicate. They need to touch, sight, hearing. 
Virtual love is cool, but the keyboard still does not account for certain subtleties.











Martha Medeiros







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